Remote Work Gives You the Freedom to Change

One of the best parts of remote work — even as a self-employed person — is the freedom to work anywhere. In this case, it meant moving out of state.

I’ve been thinking ’bout catching a train
Leave my phone machine by the radar range
Hello it’s me, I’m not at home
If you’d like to reach me, leave me alone”  Sheryl Crow et al 

Remote Work is About Freedom

There really is no reason why people should have to be forced to work in the same building. Seriously. Especially if all of their work is done in the cloud. It’s about control or the appearance of control. If work is about the actual work, the deliverables, then we should be accountable and compensated as such.

I was fortunate enough to be accountable for my deliverables during my time as Director of Marketing at an advertising firm. I will never go back to selling the time it takes to produce high value work. But that’s another blog post.

As I wrote in an earlier post, “Ultimately, remote work is freedom. It’s freedom from people interrupting your work. It’s freedom from an expensive commute. But there are downsides, too. You need to be around people.”

Freedom to Change

I started freelancing in October 2017 out of necessity. It quickly became my preferred business model. And yet I hadn’t fully taken advantage of my location-independence. I had changed my hours and I had changed my billing rates. I created half-day Fridays and I was able to travel and work at the same time.

What I didn’t change was my home base. My very sentimental, expensive home. Until I moved to Texas last week.

My clients are all over the world — quite literally.

At the time one of them was living in Indonesia and is now in the Philippines after a brief stent in Europe. Another literally lives in an RV with his family so they can drive around the States. These two individuals kept reaching out to me privately.

Why do you stay in California? You’re location-independent.

Why, indeed.

Freedom to Thrive

I’ve written about surviving after the loss of my husband four years ago this past May. Surviving isn’t living. Surviving is base level. Surviving is being able to work and pay your bills. It leaves nothing left for enjoyment, arousal, inspiration.

Honestly, as a widow of a well-enough known pastor and person in the community, it left me with very little room for personal growth beyond his legacy. I felt like I was outrunning an avalanche of ghosts. The parade of people who had died. The ghosts of relationships past — family, friends, memories. It was too much.

To thrive, to be at peace, to be in a space that is created for me, I needed to leave. It became apparent on a Texas work-cation this summer. My two very close friends began to urge me to look at neighborhoods and pricing.

I remember thinking, I just need to decide. I was texting Sarah Phillips while walking to my motel room and she said,

“Bridget, you just need to decide.”

I did. Almost immediately I got three business leads, two of whom are monthly clients now just about six weeks later. That was (almost) enough for  me. I put out a few more feelers, applied for an apartment, was approved, and like dominoes I moved into a two-bed, two-bath apartment in downtown San Antonio.

Bridget's desk in her second bedroom of her San Antonio apartment.
It’s nice to have a dedicated office space again both for the tax write off and for my mental health.

Freedom to Self-Examine

High overhead means less disposable income. It means I have to work myself into the ground in order to live. I was living to work. High debt (thanks to dental work) had me grinding. It resulted in a mental health crisis I wrote about elsewhere. I made a sequence of difficult decisions. I had to.

A month later, the COVID pandemic hit. I was financially fine — for a while. In July I lost a client. I lost another in August. That gave me extra time to think but also was below my nut. The stress began to mount to where several friends and clients told me I was burnt out. I had no idea why they were saying it. Until I did.

One day, I sat at my desk, laptop closed with the intent to write; I burst into tears. Big, giant, uncontrollable tears. Sarah knew it. She said, “Come spend time with me; I need help setting up my new home.” Maybe that was the reason, maybe it was a ruse, either way, it opened my eyes.

Change needed to happen, it wasn’t just going to “do me good.” There was no way I was going to relive the stress of 2009-2011.

Seven months after my mental health crisis, I moved into my apartment in Texas — to the day.

Freedom to Experience

During my work-cation with Sarah and since I’ve moved, I have been fishing, walked to a nearby park, spent hours upon hours alone driving on the road thinking and crying and praying, bought original art, and probably a whole lot more I haven’t even thought of.

Things that I will be exploring and experiencing soon include kayaking, tennis, and visiting the botanical gardens, zoo, and the modern art museum.

Remote Work is Empowering

Once I decided to leave the burden of California, I was completely empowered — mentally. It’s remote work that made this possible. I didn’t have to move for a job, hate it, and have nowhere to return. I didn’t move for some guy and either fit into his family or not.

The pace is slower, the costs are lower, I have fiber internet, a washer/dryer, and central air. My life is easier. All of my work is done in less than 4 or 5 hours a day. I can allow my body to rest. I can enjoy things around me.

I have agency maybe for the first time in my life. Freedom to really drive my life. It wouldn’t be possible without remote work.

Okay, here’s a P.S. since so many people have been asking.

Why Did You Move to San Antonio?

  1. There are no state income taxes in Texas.
  2. I wanted to live in the Central or Eastern Time Zones to make scheduling easier with my clients. Other cities I considered were Montpelier, VT, Nashville, TN, and Atlanta, GA.
  3. Gas is $1.65/gallon. I bought eggs for 75 cents the other day. Cents.
  4. People from the Gulf Coast are evacuated during hurricanes to San Antonio.
  5. It’s the 7th largest city in the United States.
  6. There are about 1/2 million single men here (big place for military to retire).
  7. The jet stream doesn’t usually travel here so the threat of tornados is low.
  8. I wanted to live downtown so I can walk places. But I still have my car.
  9. The neighborhood I chose is quiet and has the best Mexican food I’ve ever had.
  10. My best friend Sarah lives two hours south and Rhonda lives 30 minutes north.
  11. There is a big enough airport here.
  12. I want a lower overhead so I can travel to Europe (after COVID — if that ever happens).
  13. The people here are super nice. Genuinely nice.
  14. I didn’t fit into the culture in Southern California. It’s pretty hard to date as a solid seven in a land of Barbies (just sayin’).
  15. I only moved to Southern California because of my husband’s family, most of whom I am estranged from — except some awesome nieces and nephews.
  16. There is less visual distraction here. It’s less agitating to drive. It’s cute what they think traffic is. I believe the expression is “Bless their hearts.”

4 responses to “Remote Work Gives You the Freedom to Change”

  1. So many good take aways from this post!! Burn out is real (and maybe someday I’ll share my own story), and I’m glad you are getting through to the other side. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Enjoy SA ❤

  2. Speaking from experience (moved from Ohio to Florida) I totally agree that a fresh start is worth it!