We were married for my whole adult life — twenty-three years.
We were married when I was three weeks from being 20. “Hey 19” by Steely Dan was our inside joke.
Mercier was my lover, friend, mentor, champion, and pastor.
He was my whole world.
Looking Back
In the first nine months that Mercier died, there were four other deaths. For someone who had little experience with grief, experiencing five deaths in nine months was overwhelming.
My husband
My brother-in-law
My dog
My dad
My nephew
But in the last year, I’ve also traveled to five cities I’ve never been to.
Cincinnati
Philadelphia
Nashville
Atlanta
Chicago
Living on my own — alone.
Besides being a teenager, this is the first full year I’ve lived on my own. Actually alone. Because, dogs don’t count.
I know that I have friends. I have amazing friends.
I know that I have God. Jesus is with me.
But I am alone. That’s not something that can be dismissed. It’s truth.
I alone am responsible to pay the rent, utilities, and other fixed costs. I alone have to shop and do chores. It’s all down to me.
There were days where I didn’t think I could do it.
But I have.
Nice Surprises Along The Way
I’ve had some surprises this year. Good and bad.
I’m working on focusing on the good — the surprise friendships. The deep connection that only that kind of pain can bring. The vulnerable talks, the tears, and the laughter that overcame it.
I’ve learned to travel this year. I’ve learned to appreciate change — though, I’m still not as good at accepting it as I could be.
I’ve learned to look for beauty — even if it’s a reflection of a building upon the glass of another.
I can stand there and say, “wow.”
When the best thing can be taken away, you learn to cherish moments — looking at tulips, taking photos, remembering friends.
Mercier was the kind of person who was fully invested in any conversation he had. I want to live that kind of life.
To me, that’s how I honor his legacy.
So I said goodbye. Again. Alone.
Mercier was my husband. I was responsible for him and he for me.
It was important to me to disperse his remains on my own — alone.
I went to the beach. Talked to him on the way down, softly sung “Amazing Grace,” and carried him into the ocean.
The waves came in and I opened the bag, the cold surf surrounded my legs which felt oddly comforting. I laughed. Mercier would have laughed, too. So, I walked through the surf and let him out. He used to say he wanted to surf in Heaven. This felt right to me.
Being at Peace
So, today was a day to be the independent person Mercier wanted me to become.
Getting leads from social media activity is always the barrier — mentally — for people to accept social media marketing as a legitimate part of their marketing tool belt.
Twitter, my favorite of the social media networks, allows you to do so much of your marketing ask: brand awareness, customer engagement, customer service, promotion, discovery and validation, and, of course, sales.
And with sales, I say this. Stop expecting first-click leads.
[bctt tweet=”Stop expecting first-click leads from Twitter. They’re never first-click anyway.” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
You’ll never get first-click leads from Twitter.
I say never, but it’s probably an exaggeration. Asking social media to solve your lead-generation problem is short-sighted at best.
First of all, it will fail — miserably. Secondly, your focus on leads will cause you to consciously or even subconsciously make decisions out of fear and desperation. Those are almost never good decisions.
[bctt tweet=”Desperation shows fear. Customers can smell that. Be positive and helpful instead.” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
Pardon a crude example but to put it bluntly, getting leads without effort is like hiring a prostitute for sex. You may solve your immediate needs but you’ve built no relationship, have poor client expectations, and will only have favors for money. That’s not a realistic view of social media marketing or a good way to build a reputation.
If someone asks me about ROI one more time, why I’ll …
No seriously. When people ask about return on investment (ROI), I think they don’t understand the term. Because they don’t.
I break down relationship marketing into three main areas: affinity, discovery, and validation. These principles can be applied to nearly any social network, but for the sake of brevity, I’ll talk about Twitter.
Who doesn’t want to be liked? Where do you ever shop, voluntarily, where you’re not treated well?
Affinity is so important, Yelp’s entire business model relies upon it. Good experiences create good reviews. Conversely, bad experiences, horrible reviews.
In the movie, Pretty Woman, the main character isn’t treated well in Beverly Hills. Confessing to the manager, who isn’t delighted with her either, she says that people were mean to her.
Discovery is the process by which someone finds you. Easy enough concept. With Twitter, especially, people search for what they are looking for. They search trends, hashtags, and keywords.
By using relevant, keyword-like hashtags, you can be found by current and potential customers.
Use hashtags like you would search in the yellow pages to be more successful on Twitter. I suggest geolocation (like #OrangeCounty) and categories like #automotive or #plumber. This allows people to find you — we call that discovery.
Customer Validation
Validation is the process by which people check you out after discovering you. This may be an introduction at a Meetup or after they hear you present at a Chamber of Commerce.
People will search for your name and see what comes up. Have you done a search? What are the results?
[bctt tweet=”How did you make your last buying decision? Did it involve a search?” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
Google your name. Seriously. But do it in an incognito window. Go a few pages deep.
When a customer discovers you, you are on the path to getting leads from social media. This is part of their journey. The journey to a lead begins with a thousand Google searches. Well, maybe five. You get the point.
How do you optimize the validation process?
You can optimize the validation process by publishing good content that matters to you and your audience.
I shouldn’t post about real estate. Why? Because I’m not a real estate professional or a mortgage broker and I don’t do social media for that industry. Real Estate isn’t bad; it’s not relevant to me.
What is relevant is social media strategy, tips, and WordPress community posts.
Where are these things published? I publish on my blog, I post on Facebook, I tweet, I write posts on Medium.com, I am a guest author for friends, I appear on podcasts and shows, I participate in my industry.
[bctt tweet=”Public participation online is publishing. What are you publishing?” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
The validation process is the final process of getting leads from social. They like you. They’ve found you. They’ve searched for you and believe you are credible and trustworthy.
Where did the lead really come from?
Now they pickup the phone and call you.
How did you record that lead? Was it from your phone number, the website, or a tweet where you congratulated a peer? Did you ask?
Affinity, discovery, and validation are all important steps in getting leads from social; and first-click is never really the first click.
It’s great to be a strategist. Heck, it’s a higher-paying job. But it’s dangerous to be too far away from tactics — especially since they change so often in tech. To be better at the work, you have to do the work.
A coder can’t understand overall strategy without an intimacy with the code he’s proficient in, or better yet, understanding trends in codebases. A mechanic would not be able to shape and evolve his business if he doesn’t understand how much time an oil change should take.
Most small businesses, freelancers, and entrepreneurs are also practitioners. It’s not degrading to your role to do the work. So why do I hear myself saying this so often?
Do the Work.
Jason Knill and I shape organic and paid advertising at GiveWP along with my traditional content marketing goals like blog posts and email marketing. We look at trends, we talk about insights from in-person meetings, Meetups, Twitter, WordCamps, and other people’s news. We bring a “mental rigor and curiosity,” as he calls it, to our work with GiveWP.
Lately, we’ve been having a conversation around craft. Why do so many people in our industry enjoy making craft beer? Why are people in tech turning to knitting, gardening, or even fishing?
It’s about short-term satisfaction and accomplishment.
So often our work has long-term results. It’s no different with strategy. To craft a strategy and then wait for results takes faith — faith in the process, faith in the forecasting, faith in the tactics.
[bctt tweet=”Waiting for results takes faith — in the process, in the forecasting, in the tactics.” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
So why do so many people shy away from tactics and stick with strategy?
The only reason I can come up with is job protection.
Protecting The Boundaries of Your Job Title
Being a Marketing Manager means thinking strategically. That’s a closely-guarded job title. I’ve had friends say they won’t do “x, y, or z” because it devalues their job title. I’ve also been told that I’m acting like a “Social Media Manager” as if it’s more degrading than a “Marketing Manager.”
Hey, I get it. In this world, regardless of how far we’ve come, a woman usually only gains salary increases by switching jobs. It’s sad from the point of diversity, feminism, and, I hate to say it, company culture.
“If two people with the same experience and education are hired as peers, are their titles and pay equal? Because people of color and women are often underpaid, even when moving companies or switching roles, they lose out of money based on salary history. Assuring that rank and pay are fair helps keep people of color and women from being under-leveled and underpaid.” Bärí A. Williams
Consequences of Status Protection
Before I digress too far away from my point of “doing the work,” there is something we should think about in this vein.
If “it’s not my job” prevails any company culture, what you’ll have is an employee who is looking to transition to any good offer that presents itself. This will happen either consciously or subconsciously.
What you’ve lost is bigger than the time you’ve invested in said employee.
You’ve lost loyalty.
A loss in loyalty affects the entire company culture. People watch how Employee X is treated. They will pick up on cognitive dissonance. They will come to the conclusion that if Employee X isn’t valued, maybe they’re not either.
But I digress. The point is that no matter the reason you think you should protect the boundaries of your job title, being too far away from tactics affects strategy.
What is the difference between strategy and tactics?
Strategy is tied to goals. Where do you want to be? What would you like to achieve in a certain timeframe.
Strategy is the plan — 30 days, 120 days, 1 year.
Think of it in terms we may be more familiar with: war. Strategy is about winning the war. Tactics are how you do it. The great generals of time understand the landscape, their enemy, their enemy’s tactics, and the strengths and weaknesses of their own army.
Don’t like war? How about sports? No football team goes against another team without spending time on the field in practice. The strategy of the game never changes: outscore the opposing team by running the ball in the end zone.
The tactics to achieve that strategy vary depending upon the team you’re playing. Coaches and leadership — maybe even the team — will spend hours watching tape of the opposing team — studying their every move. The strategy of studying the opposition helps you find their strengths and weaknesses. It helps shape the tactics used in order to accomplish the overall goals.
Coaches and generals apply strategy to achieve their goals, but in war and football, the tactics and tools don’t evolve as quickly as the digital world. This is why it’s important to do the work.
[bctt tweet=”Tactics in social shift frequently. Do the work. Be a practitioner.” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
Strategy and Tactics are not Mutually Exclusive
If you’ve ever listened to Gary Vaynerchuk, then you’ve heard him say, “be a practitioner.” He talks about having his head in the clouds and his feet in the dirt.
For him, clouds represent strategy and tactics the dirt.
In this video he says,
“I believe that engagement on Twitter makes sense. I also then do it.”
Do the Work.
Once you write your strategy and start implementing it, you may see results that surprise you — in any direction. Do you stop to ask yourself why?
Why are those ads converting? What is your time on site? What are the voids your brand can fill in your industry? Where can you show your value? How can you increase loyalty? Why is your open rate so low? Is it just your company or is it the service?
Questions are important. Questions drive you to answers.
[bctt tweet=”If you don’t understand tactics, you won’t ask the right questions.” username=”bridgetmwillard”]
Doing the work gives you familiarity. Sure, Vayner Media has over 800 employees. But what’s amazing about Gary Vaynerchuk is that he always does the work. That’s why his agency has won in so many areas.
“Here’s the thing: if you’re not constantly working on your craft—if you get too romantic about doing things how they’ve “always been done”—you’re going to lose. You need to be a practitioner.” Gary Vaynerchuk
Tactical shifts — especially in media — can alter the effectiveness of your strategy. If you distance yourself too far from implementation, you will not be able to create or alter a strategy that creates results.
The truth is LinkedIn the most stable and professional of the social networks. The culture of LinkedIn allows and encourages self-promotion (like listing your projects, degrees, and certificates).
Users are encouraged to follow companies, professionals should list their volunteer experience, and Company Pages can post updates to engage their audience.
All of this is a plus in the column for nonprofits to leverage LinkedIn. So, let’s talk about it in #NPChat this week.
Why Join a Twitter Chat?
Twitter chats are a great way to connect with like-minded professionals who are engaged users on Twitter. This elevates your brand, gives you visibility, and positions yourself as an expert on the topic and in the field.
Who doesn’t want to connect with your community? Who doesn’t need help every once in a while?
Joining our weekly Twitter Chat may just be the right thing for you. And, who knows, you may even have a few tweets featured in our recap!
#NPChat takes place every Wednesday morning at 10:00 a.m. Pacific Time.
How to Join a Twitter Chat
Follow the hashtag on Twitter (but don’t forget to add #NPChat manually after your tweet or we won’t see your tweet, especially in a comment retweet).
Use Hootsuite or TweetDeck and make a column for #NPChat (but don’t forget to put #NPChat manually after your tweet).
Go to the Twubs page for #NPChat.
My preferred method is using TweetChat. Just go here and login with your Twitter account. You can even highlight the moderator so you don’t miss questions.
LinkedIn for Nonprofits: The Questions
This week’s chat topic is about LinkedIn. Worth mentioning also is LinkedIn’s nonprofit resource landing page here. That’s something you’ll want to read in addition to what will be offered during the chat.
Q1. How are you currently involved with a nonprofit?
Q2. Do you have a LinkedIn profile?
Q3. As a user, how do you interact with Company Pages?
Q4. Do you follow any nonprofits on LinkedIn?
Q5. Does your nonprofit have a Company Page?
Q6. What do you post on your Company Page?
Q7. What are your LinkedIn tips and tricks?
See you Wednesday, April 26, 2017, at 10:00 am Pacific Time on Twitter. Invite your friends.