— Julie got me this cup because I always say I’m in “survival mode.” People often ask me when I’ll get out of survival mode. I’m not sure. It seems like I’ve been here my whole life. — Working to be heard. Finding my voice. Fighting the silence. — Desiring to be respected. Crying when…

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May 31. On this day last year my husband died. We were married for my whole adult life — twenty-three years. We were married when I was three weeks from being 20. “Hey 19” by Steely Dan was our inside joke. Mercier was my lover, friend, mentor, champion, and pastor. He was my whole world. Looking Back…

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At a certain age we look inward. We take an inventory. We audit our lives. Does my student loan matter? Did I impact anyone’s life in my one year of teaching? What do I have to show for the last thirty years of my working life, let alone personal? People come and go in our…

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I refer to myself as a “crock-pot thinker.” Meaning, I observe things around me, combine them, and they cook — slowly — in my brain. When it’s done, I have a working theory about any given subject. Today’s “crock pot” food for thought is about value. Who assigns us value? How do we become valuable? Is it our behavior that…

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