I keep trying to text you And then stopping myself “He doesn’t care,” I say. “But what if he does?” asks doubt. “You’ll push him away,” says fear. “He misses you,” says confidence. “Your vulnerability makes you clingy,” says my insecurity. “You are a powerful connector,” says my strength. “I am awesome,” says my sass.…

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I speak, he listens He calls, I answer I cry, he holds me He’s sick, I caretake I stand, he’s there He leads, I follow I break, he mends I sleep, he snores He dies, I’m alone

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(Did I disappear somehow?) After a breakup, divorce, or death people often say, “You need time to find yourself.” At first that makes no sense. Zero. It implies that just because I was part of a marriage I wasn’t myself. I wasn’t a person? Seriously? Now, I firmly believe that marriage is a partnership — with give…

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I refer to myself as a “crock-pot thinker.” Meaning, I observe things around me, combine them, and they cook — slowly — in my brain. When it’s done, I have a working theory about any given subject. Today’s “crock pot” food for thought is about value. Who assigns us value? How do we become valuable? Is it our behavior that…

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Social media gets a bad wrap for being a place where people tweet that they’re going to the bathroom, take selfies in their car, and review their chicken salad. It’s just small talk. So why invest? I mean, who cares what you ate for breakfast? The truth is, we all care. Warning: Snark Ahead I…

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