I’m too loud. I’m too obnoxious. I’m too boisterous. Too noisy. Too much personality. I’m too socially awkward. I’m too restrained. Too withdrawn. Too shy. Too quiet. I’m too old. I’m too young. I’m too friendly, too blunt. Too open, too closed. Too vulnerable, too weak. Too aggressive, too passive. I back down too easily.…

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(Did I disappear somehow?) After a breakup, divorce, or death people often say, “You need time to find yourself.” At first that makes no sense. Zero. It implies that just because I was part of a marriage I wasn’t myself. I wasn’t a person? Seriously? Now, I firmly believe that marriage is a partnership — with give…

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While collaborating on a challenging project the other day, my boss looked at me and said, “Well, Bridget. Are you ready? This may be hard.” I looked him dead in the eye and said, “I’m an emotional athlete. I’m ready. Are you?” We both laughed but I thought about that. What was that burst of…

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What if I saw you today and you asked me how I am? What would my answer be? What should my answer be? What if I gave a half smile and said, “okay?” What if I said I’m not okay? What if I’m fragile, too fragile to tell the truth? What if people are tired of…

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